the facebook
11.21.04 (10:05 am) [edit]
This facebook thing--- go to www.thefacebook.com-- is a way for college kids and alumni to stay in touch, display a picture, let people know what you're up to, etc. It has listings from almost everywhere you can think of-- including my university. I have 143 facebook 'friends' I believe. I look at it sometimes, if only because I recieve random emails once in a while about someone requesting to be my friend.
See, here's how it works: You can search for a friend at any school, and then find them, and request that they be added to your friends. The person then has to 'confirm' your friendship, and there profile is listed in your friends, and visa-versa. If the person denies you as a friend, you are spared the misery of not knowing. Ignorance is bliss, but if the person never shows up on your list of confirmed friends, then you can put two and two together.
My most recent facebook drama? While looking for a friend who's last named began with H, I stumbled upon the ex girlfriend. Who we have had quite a few problems with. And I looked at her profile. She's a pretty girl--and we had 9 friends in common. And D loved her once, and I think he has the best taste ever. But now, after our problems with her, she is not his friend. This makes me feel awful--like a heinous yoko-ono biatch who has broken john lennon from the rest of the beatles-- only to make bad songs and protest war. And I worry that john's creative and loving abilities will be strained, drained, and canned as a result of my presence driving away his one tiem best friend.
I have to add though, that I am not the innocent party as new girlfriend: While in college, I think she was kind of a bully. She scared me. I wont go into details, but she just kind of made me nervous. And so when it turns up that D is still dating her, I got super scared. But he wasnt, but she was still interested--?
I dont know, its all complicated.
But---- I asked D about it recently, and he said he hadnt spoken to her in a long time. And I had the yoko bad feeling. So when I saw her on the facebook, I went ahead and asked her to be my friend.
A part of me figured, if you cant beat em', join em'. But 199% of me thought that I was extending an olive branch, of really wanting to be this person's friend. I am not evil, or awful, or yoko-like, I promise....I am actually quite nice. And I care more about D then anything else in this world--and want him to never ever lose a friend on account of me. How horrible.
Needless to say, she does not want to be my friend.
What would you do? I feel kind of bad--though I am not thinking about it too often.
I mean, did she think I was joking? Or thought I was being mean? I wont try again, but I hope someday she looks back and says, 'You know, that girl was only trying to be nice'.
See, here's how it works: You can search for a friend at any school, and then find them, and request that they be added to your friends. The person then has to 'confirm' your friendship, and there profile is listed in your friends, and visa-versa. If the person denies you as a friend, you are spared the misery of not knowing. Ignorance is bliss, but if the person never shows up on your list of confirmed friends, then you can put two and two together.
My most recent facebook drama? While looking for a friend who's last named began with H, I stumbled upon the ex girlfriend. Who we have had quite a few problems with. And I looked at her profile. She's a pretty girl--and we had 9 friends in common. And D loved her once, and I think he has the best taste ever. But now, after our problems with her, she is not his friend. This makes me feel awful--like a heinous yoko-ono biatch who has broken john lennon from the rest of the beatles-- only to make bad songs and protest war. And I worry that john's creative and loving abilities will be strained, drained, and canned as a result of my presence driving away his one tiem best friend.
I have to add though, that I am not the innocent party as new girlfriend: While in college, I think she was kind of a bully. She scared me. I wont go into details, but she just kind of made me nervous. And so when it turns up that D is still dating her, I got super scared. But he wasnt, but she was still interested--?
I dont know, its all complicated.
But---- I asked D about it recently, and he said he hadnt spoken to her in a long time. And I had the yoko bad feeling. So when I saw her on the facebook, I went ahead and asked her to be my friend.
A part of me figured, if you cant beat em', join em'. But 199% of me thought that I was extending an olive branch, of really wanting to be this person's friend. I am not evil, or awful, or yoko-like, I promise....I am actually quite nice. And I care more about D then anything else in this world--and want him to never ever lose a friend on account of me. How horrible.
Needless to say, she does not want to be my friend.
What would you do? I feel kind of bad--though I am not thinking about it too often.
I mean, did she think I was joking? Or thought I was being mean? I wont try again, but I hope someday she looks back and says, 'You know, that girl was only trying to be nice'.